Tag: transparenting

Tales from Transition3 Comments

…underwear changed my world view

Mr. Gender

October 2003 The first time I see a drag king I fall in love. Not with that person but with what their existence means. That sometimes, at least in limited circumstances, which seemingly have their own rules, a ‘girl’ can be a ‘boy.’ I have to know more. I am obsessed with facial hair and flat chests. Lucky for me my first drag king encounter is with an author on the subject. I read The Art of Drag Kinging cover to cover, taking notes. I create a drag persona who is nothing like me. I look in the mirror and … Continue reading …underwear changed my world view

Journey2 Comments

Telling the youngest or ‘mama is just a girl’

Mr. Gender

Setting: He is four years old. It’s a Wednesday night and like any other night my youngest son and I are completing the bedtime routine. My wife joins us. I’m so nervous but the fierceness that has always been his love gives me hope. In many ways I found my courage to find myself in his unwavering love. I don’t have a plan. I’m not sure how I will tell him. Will I be able to answer his questions? Am I about to shatter his world? Will he even understand? But I just start talking… Me: Buddy, are you a … Continue reading Telling the youngest or ‘mama is just a girl’