When I came out I expected that people I had known for a long time would accidentally refer to me with female pronouns. I was right. It happens much more rarely now, but when it does it is disorienting. I know it is unintentional but it still means that they view me as a woman and it is hurtful. Though, much more recently I have been able to find it slightly amusing because, at this stage it is entirely about them and their relationship to me, not me and my relationship to them. They can only benefit from actively correcting … Continue reading The ways in which we gender one another