In the coming months I will work to add each of these stories as links below. This is my timeline.

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• The early years or I just want to wear a sweater vest
• The places you’ll go
• My longest relationship
• 2003 – Coming Out v1.0
  • Waking up gay
  • Oh, that’s why. Now I see. I thought maybe you were a swimmer.
• 2004 – Indigo Girls and Badminton or The Lesbian Summer
  • Introducing Justin Decent

• 2006 – Adulting
  • Moving to ‘Seattle’
  • A love story
    • Part 1 – First impressions
    • Part 2 – Won’t take no for an answer
    • Part 3 – Second opinion
    • Part 4 – Meet the parents
    • Part 5 – Moving in. Tying the knot.
    • Part 6 – What do you mean these eggs are expired?
  • A family of my own
• 2017 – Sportscaster or Anchorman
• 2018 – What’ll it be for you, sir?
• 2018 – Coming out v2.0
  • Why are you such a lucky bastard?
  • Telling Mom or ‘you may want to sit down’
  • Her parents
  • Will the kids be all right?
    • Telling the eldest or Rocket League wheels
    • Telling the youngest or ‘mama is just a girl’
  • The colleague formerly known as…
  • It’s Facebook official
• That time when…
  • …underwear changed my world view
  • …every day in December took a year
  • …every cell in my body screamed ‘do not stab me’ so I started doing it weekly (video)
  • …I woke up without boobs.
    • Morning before top surgery
  • …and then two years had passed.
  • …I learned I am autistic.
• Reflections
  • So much adulting OR you had one job – a story about how the simple act of refinancing our house was a far greater emotional burden than I could have anticipated. Name changes aren’t as changed as they seem.
  • Learn lesson, rinse, repeat
  • Two mostly unrelated stories
  • Never to be seen again – regular, run of the mill dysphoria
  • A case for acceptance
  • The ways in which we gender one another
  • And yet… – Despite enormous privilege, life is hard.
  • Black heart today – The importance of acknowledging the emotional weight of being a part of a minority group.
  • On courage – A speech for Pride 2021. A story of the importance of visibility.
  • To stop wanting more