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Gravity

Mr. Gender

It’s early December 2018. There is so much to do. So much to figure out. I am desperate to check all the perceived boxes but everything takes time. And time is the one thing I feel I have missed so much of. minutes fall away like gravity pulling water from a faucet a simple consequence of time the result of ill-fit riddle comes to me in pieces strewn across the floor am I enough to put it together? I am not certain anymore I’ve got a secret so long kept I didn’t know, couldn’t see it push it away Continue reading Gravity

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Introducing Teddy

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A tool for talking about gender identity with young children. I am in love with this story by Jessica Walton. I recommend it to anyone with a young child. Or anyone who needs to give their inner child a new narrative about having permission to be yourself. The book tells of the friendship between Errol and his teddy bear. They do many fun things together but Errol notices that Thomas seems sad. His bear shares with Errol that they wish their name was Tilly, not Thomas. Errol affirms that what really matters is that they are friends and thanks them … Continue reading Introducing Teddy

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Telling the youngest or ‘mama is just a girl’

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Setting: He is four years old. It’s a Wednesday night and like any other night my youngest son and I are completing the bedtime routine. My wife joins us. I’m so nervous but the fierceness that has always been his love gives me hope. In many ways I found my courage to find myself in his unwavering love. I don’t have a plan. I’m not sure how I will tell him. Will I be able to answer his questions? Am I about to shatter his world? Will he even understand? But I just start talking… Me: Buddy, are you a … Continue reading Telling the youngest or ‘mama is just a girl’

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Telling Mom or ‘you may want to sit down’

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Setting: It’s mid-December 2018. My mother and her husband are planning on coming for Christmas and while I am not quite ready I am also growing increasingly uncomfortable with my mother not knowing about this significant revelation though it is only six weeks old. I have always preferred an actual crisis over tolerating the anticipation of the possible. I consider waiting to talk to her in person but I am certain I can’t stand not binding for even a day and that if I do bind, she will want an explanation. She shares my preference to avoid anticipation. I knew … Continue reading Telling Mom or ‘you may want to sit down’